Orthodox dating how far
“I just thought that I would meet somebody naturally — that’s how most of my past relationships had been.” But a matchmaker, of sorts, beckoned.Rivka (not her real name), a veteran of the Modern Orthodox dating scene, thought the “human touch” — rather than the impersonal, algorithm-driven technology that brings people together on sites and apps like JDate and the Tinder-inspired JSwipe — had potential.
OU-JLIConnections uses campus Jewish educators who know the students as matchmakers rather than Saw You At Sinai’s randomly assigned shadchans.
Weinberg advocates for the value of having an “ombudsman” in the dating-for-marriage process.
In contrast to what she characterizes as “environment of wandering,” created by apps in which daters keep seeking a more perfect person in an endless sea of possibilities and never allow a relationship to develop, a shadchan helps encourage communication and compromise to help a couple build a rapport.
As for Rivka, the recent Ivy League graduate on the Upper West Side, the push and pull between dating apps and the “human touch” played out in her own, ultimately successful, search for a mate.
For a short time while she was using JLIConnections, she also had a JSwipe account, which she deleted after a few weeks.